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Please note: This information is not intended as encouragement for anyone to take psychedelics - unless it is done in a legal location with competent guidance in a safe, supportive environment such as La Familia Ayahuasca. I am confident you'll be well-served by Zach & Jess. Here's a Podcast about their work and location and another Podcast that may be helpful to you. You may also want to check out Synthesis as an option for a well-managed psilocybin experience. Of course if you're able to access one, an FDA-approved clinical trial is an excellent option with trusted substances, careful preparation and follow-up. There are likely many other safe, legal options but at this point, none that I feel confident in referring anyone to. Hopefully I'll learn more as I move along the paths I share with my clients as well as my personal path of healing and transformation - stay tuned...
From my perspective, it's also important that one feel internally "called or led" to take psychedelics and are not being overly influenced by peer pressure or media hype. And, some personal research is important to cultivate a basic understanding of psychedelic experiences and in establishing reasonable expectations. A 50-year accumulation of empirical research suggests that carefully-conducted psychedelic experiences can facilitate psychological and emotional healing. They can be transformative, truly life-changing. My brief article on re-parenting provides a glimpse of one of the ways these experiences can facilitate emotional and psychological healing. Of course, there's also evidence of harm resulting from the reckless misuse of these powerful substances. So, it pays to be careful...
I trust this information will be helpful in making a wise decision regarding taking these substances or not, how much, when, where and with whom. For those who decide to take psychedelics for whatever reasons they have, my intention is to help reduce any chance of their having a "bad trip" while helping to make the most of the positive fruits these journeys often provide. Simply minimize risk and maximize gain. So, please consider everything I present below and elsewhere on my site as loving encouragement, few hard and fast rules here. I know you'll find your own way and have your own experience and outcome. I suspect this is just as it should be.
Perhaps the best option for a first step in preparing for a psychedelic experience is to establish a trusting relationship with a qualified psychotherapist skilled in psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy. Even in the common situation where they are unable to be with you during the actual experience due to legal reasons, the therapist can guide you through the preparation stage and support you throughout the integration and stabilization process. This is the kind of guidance and support I and some other therapists (see MAPS - Psychedelic Support) offer our clients.
If you feel it would be helpful to have a free 15 to 20-minute Zoom chat with me at any point in your process - except during an actual psychedelic experience itself! drop me a note and we'll set one up (learn about my services). Also, check out this page to learn about some engaging events coming to Louisville and this page for some reports from folks on the healing path of psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy and transformation.
- This TED talk by Roland Griffiths is about current research into the use of psychedelics and their potential for transforming our culture through Spiritual Awakening.
- Michael Pollan’s 90-minute interview with Joe Rogan provides some info on the history and current research as well as his personal experiences with psychedelics.
- This TED talk provides a good overview of current research into clinical applications of psychedelics and their effectiveness.
- This 13-minute segment of the TV news show 60-Minutes - October 13, 2019.
- This 15-minute video from Rebel Wisdom provides a glimpse of what can occur during a psychedelic journey and why it's so important to prepare beforehand and commit to doing some personal work afterward.
- These three short videos offer a glimpse into some of the factors related to the re-setting of the "default mode network" - a common fruit of psychedelic experiences:
- A Stroke of Insight
- The Divided Brain and for more depth, watch this interview.
- The Hacking of the American Mind
- These three brief articles point to the importance of integration if the goal is long-term transformation - psychological and emotional healing and Spiritual growth:
- Psychedelic Support
- Psychedelic Times
- Live Learn Evolve
I encourage you to consider which substance(s) would be best given your situation and reasons for taking a journey with a psychedelic. After pursing the materials above, check out these wikipedia links for an overview of the classic psychedelics: psilocybin, ayahuasca, LSD and a popular empathogen being used with good effects with PTSD and other serious emotional issues, MDMA. There's also DMT which offers an intense psychedelic experience but is considered by some to be suitable only for those with previous exposure to psychedelics, but there are other views. This Thank You Plant Medicine site offers a good overview of these substances along with reports on the positive impact they have had on thousands of people.
Cannabis is getting a lot of attention these days in the medical community as well as for emotional healing especially in states where it is legal (e.g., cannabis healing center). Ketamine is another substance under this broad tent that can clearly be quite helpful in some clinical situations (e.g., depression and alcoholism). This 2-part conversation with two of the researchers involved in MAPS' clinical MDMA trials provides an overview of cannabis and ketamine and compares the two with psilocybin. They share valuable information on how each substance can be a good choice for some, not so good for others (listen to part 1 and part 2). A bit outside of the psychedelic healing tent, is ibogaine, a plant-based medicine that is establishing itself as an excellent option for breaking free of severe addiction. If this is an issue for you, I encourage you to check it out. Whatever your choice of substance(s), it's wise to test whatever you plan to use so you'll know what you're taking.
By investing some time and effort in the research process, you'll come to appreciate some of the subtle and not-so-subtle differences among these substances and will be much better able to make a wise choice for your particular situation. Consider such things as: how solidly you are grounded (i.e., ego strength), your tolerance for discomfort, your attachment to a sense of safety, history of anxiety and fear issues, from what or whom you're hoping to get unstuck, how you hope to heal and to grow... For example, if you are someone who isn't well connected with their physical body, perhaps due to past trauma, MDMA may be a good option. If you feel you will need an experience on the mild side, you might consider cannabis. If you're seeking a truly deep transformation and are willing and able to invest 7 to 10 days in the process, a well-supported ayahuasca experience may be a good choice. For a true mystical experience with a minimum of distress and excellent potential benefit, psilocybin may be a good option.
As you might expect within a psychologist's practice, most of my clients are seeking deep psychological and emotional healing from their psychedelic journeys. Most often, they work with either ayahuuasca, psilocybin or MDMA. Some of the most amazing healing experiences I've been blessed to witness (pre and post, never during) have begun with an established meditation practice. This was followed by taking a combination of these medicines over time. Some clients with a generally mindful and healthy lifestyle and have found their way into a classic clinical-like setting (see John Hopkins) or have set one up for themselves (see info below for the "do-it-yourself" route). They began with a high dose of psilocybin followed a few months later with a significant dose of MDMA and many have experienced impressive results. These clients often report feeling remarkably free of old conditioned, self-destructive and self-limiting habits, distorted self-concepts and narrow perspectives on the world and their place in it. For some, these limitations have held them back, made them feel small and afraid of living their life fully, for decades - here are some stories from these folks.
The clients I work with who have the most problems post-journey are those who took a dive into the psychedelic pool without skilled guidance, with little preparation, limited time for the journey itself or for follow-up integration. This may be a weekend adventure with friends, a too-short or under-staffed psychedelic "retreat" or with a romantic partner where old issues arose (e.g., sexual abuse) but healing space was not provided. In the worst case there is a re-traumatization - the person is driven further into shame and self-hate and body-centered distress and/or dissociation. These folks can come out of the psychedelic experience profoundly confused, disoriented and feeling abandoned and abused - a painful situation that can last for days or weeks.
As you can see, I have my reasons to encourage you to invest the time needed to have a basic understanding of what you're likely to encounter and what preparations you'll need to make in order to have a beneficial and safe journey. As with every other aspect of this work, any use of these substances, which one(s), when, where and with whom will be your decision - just be careful...
- More resources for filling in details of the map of your journey:
- The Nature of the MDMA Experience and it's Role in Healing, Psychotherapy and Spiritual Practice
- Tricycle article July 2018 - Psychedelics' Buddhist Revival
- An article on Seeking a Psychedelic Guide from Psychedelics Today
- Can Magic Mushrooms Unlock Depression?
- Rick Doblin – follow up on the Good Friday Experiment
- Paul Stamet’s first psilocybin experience
- Psilocybin and Meditation
- This link will take you to more books, videos, articles, etc.
If you've read down this far, you know that I encourage folks to only consider taking a psychedelic in a legal way with trained facilitators in a supportive environment. However, I know that some folks are going to have these experiences on their own or with very limited support so I offer a few suggestions for making the best of such a less-than-ideal situation.
Whoever is going to accompany you, have them read this Manual for Psychedelic Guides and/or this Manual for Ayahusaca and/or this Manual for MDMA. Of course, you should invest a chunk of time with one or more of these manuals too! You want to make sure you both understand the supporter's role in the process clearly enough that they will truly be able to support you, not project their past journeys, needs, fascinations, agendas, fears, etc. onto your experience - not a good thing!
- If you have a close friend who has had rewarding psychedelic experiences aimed a personal growth and healing (not just entertainment), they may be a reasonable option to accompany you through your first psychedelic experience. It's important that you feel quite comfortable with them and know that you're not being pressured into taking a journey - it has to be your idea and it's critical that you're comfortable going into it - trust your gut and what you're learned from your research! Also, it's critically important to have a deep trust that this person will not be tempted to take advantage of you in any way. For example, even if it's you who approaches them sexually mid-point in the journey you need to trust them to lovingly re-direct you back to your own inner healing experience. Of course, if this is not the first psychedelic experience for either of you and the decision is made beforehand that sex will be part of your shared experience, then move slowly, carefully and mindfully into the process and be ready to stop should either of you have a negative reaction or feel threatened or anxious - not uncommon as unresolved issues (e.g., past trauma, sexual assault) often come to light during these experiences. This is how these experiences can be healing if approached carefully and how they can be re-traumatizing if they aren't. Again, it pays to go slow and be careful. Read about some of these experiences on both sides of the fence.
- If your significant other has had positive healing experiences with psychedelics (not just fun times), they may be a reasonable option, assuming the relationship is grounded in a commitment to personal and spiritual growth, relatively free of conflict and generally has a low-drama history. In these situations, sharing these transforming experiences may be strengthening to the relationship (see this article). However, psychedelic experiences can be quite detrimental if the foundation of the relationship isn't solid. This is especially true if control issues, passive-aggressive acting out, resentments, jealousy, underlying anger, sexual conflicts, etc. are active in the relationship or in its recent history. If this is the case, I encourage you to not have your partner in the environment when you journey. And, give yourself a few days apart following your experience to integrate as completely as you are able before coming back together. It's a wise move to work out your major relationship conflicts and issues prior to either of you taking a psychedelic journey. Also, if you're doing a solo journey, it's a good idea to let your partner know what you're up to and what to expect when you return - including any possibility of your ending the relationship (so if you do, they won't blame the journey or your guides for the break-up). No relationship will ever be perfect but pouring fuel on the fire of dysfunction isn't likely to be helpful to either party, just create more suffering for all concerned. Being Open, Honest and Vulnerable are key aspects to any growth-promoting and healing intimate relationship (here's some useful info). This is the position I encourage you to take at every step along your relationship path - it demonstrates that you deeply value yourself, your partner and your relationship and it provides a safe container for healing for both partners - a very good thing.
- Regardless of the relationship you have with your guide (friend, lover, therapist), it is critical they be naturally calm and able to sit with another's distress (screaming, shaking violently, etc.) without reacting from their own fear and discomfort. A confident, calm energy and still embodied presence is essential qualities of a trustworthy guide. This is especially important during the periods of ego dissolution, when one's developmental foundation upon which their sense of reality has been built, falls away leaving them with nothing familiar to hold onto - a frightening experience for sure. An anxious or even an overly-analytical (grounded in the left brain, lots of questions) person sitting with you can easily push you into a very bad trip. And if you tend toward anxiety and fear yourself, with this combination, you can easily come out of a psychedelic experience in far worse shape than you went in. This is where proper preparation for dealing with the discomfort of arising fear or waves of terror comes into play (see "anxiety and fear" below).
- Cultivating a disciplined meditation practice can prepare you for dealing effectively with uncomfortable experiences - the classic "terror of ego death" for example. Being able to respond to such discomfort by dropping into a calm, mindful state where it all can be observed from a comfortable distance can be quite helpful in preventing a "bad trip" often caused by not surrendering to the experience and trying to run away or to stop it, which basically doesn't work. The most common "bad trips" my clients experience arise from lack of the developed capacity to manage their anxiety before jumping into a psychedelic experience which results in their having even more anxiety in their daily lives than before the experience - not a good thing.
- Develop a healthy lifestyle that includes regular exercise, an wellness-promoting diet, meaningful work, engaging social interactions and an intimate, loving partnership. I know this is a lot to ask, so just work from where you are and commit yourself to moving forward. Avoid comparing yourself or your life to anyone else, just to where you were a few months ago. Gradual progress tends to be more stable so take it one step at a time. Personal and spiritual growth is such a wonderful opportunity to develop patience! Check out this YouTube with Jordan Peterson.
- Music is often recommended to enhance your psychedelic journey. For one reason, calming music gives the left brain something to busy itself with as the right brain kicks into a higher gear. Music can also be helpful in the integration process as it can help guide you back to the higher state of consciousness experienced during your journey when you're engaged in other activities (e.g. yoga, float tank, some forms of meditation). This article offers a brief overview of how music can be helpful and provides samples of useful options. In MAPS' MDMA clinical trials, 3 playlists (each is 5.5 hours) are typically used: Psychedelic Therapy Playlist 1 (my personal favorite) - Playlist 2 - Playlist 3. You can find these and other options on Spotify. Of course you'll need a paid Spotify account to avoid the interruptions of advertisements. Headphones or earbuds are recommended for the best quality sound but stereo speakers placed on each side of the head will do.
- An eye-mask can be quite useful by allowing the psychedelic experience to be in darkness. Darkness reduces the interference of visual input which can lead to distraction and a coming out of the experience and back into ordinary life with all of it's everyday concerns. This may be an option you choose for your first experience, then open up to other options (e.g. being in nature, in a float tank).
- Consider Recording your Sessions as some folks find that listening to what they said and how they said it along with other sounds they made during their psychedelic experience to be both interesting and valuable to their transformation. It can help clarify and stabilize any insights that arose during the experience. This is an easy thing to do, just place a recorder (or your cell phone on "voice memo") nearby, start recording and let it run until the session has ended - some 5 or 6 hours later... In a few weeks, play it through when you have time to listen with minimum distraction. Maybe take a few notes...
- A safe quiet setting with a comfortable bed, cushions and pillows with a comfy chair(s) for your guide(s) will help make the most of the experience - relax and allow the music to carry you along in the darkness. This too may be something you play with after you get comfortable with your chosen substance(s) but generally for this type of work, too much volume of sound or light is unlikely to be helpful - there are exceptions of course, it's your journey after all...
Time in a Float Tank I have found that an effective test of one's natural ability to "ride the waves of a shifting reality" is to spend some serious time in a Float Tank (Weightless). This Podcast presents some of the benefits of Floating on Anxiety & Depression. Six or eight 90-minute float tank experiences spread over a few weeks can give you a taste of an alternate reality similar in some important ways to a psychedelic trip (see John Lilly). If the float tank experience goes well for you, you're more likely going to enjoy and benefit from your psychedelic experience. If not, consider working with whatever discomfort or fear that arises in the tank until you are comfortable in the tank before considering taking a high dose of any psychedelic substance.
Intense Meditation Retreat While everyone is unique in what preparation may be most useful, one of my common recommendations is to sit an intensive meditation retreat such as a 10-day Goenka course (often referred to as "spiritual bootcamp"). For many, this can be an excellent preparation experience while establishing a foundation for daily meditation practice for when you're "on the other side" of your psychedelic experience.
- Consider viewing any insights, images, understandings, revelations, etc. that may arise during your experience to be pieces of your psychological and emotional framework which developed from birth until today - some strong, healthy aspects, others no so much. From this broad perspective, these aspects of your development can become tools for deep self-healing. Such healing may be related to attachment issues grounded in early childhood with your family-of-origin as well as early interactions with peers and adults who played an important role in your early life (e.g., grandparents, teachers, coaches). They may be unhealthy habits you developed later in life in an attempt to avoid distressing feelings and thoughts that were raising up. It seems having a "map" of how psychedelic experiences can be used effectively for this level of healing would be useful. I'm working on sketching out just such a map - check back on this page from time-to-time for the details. For now, I'll offer these suggestions:
- Reflect on your life, family-of-origin, childhood, siblings, college days, friends, intimate relationships, work life, children, etc.
- If you haven't already, check out my article on Psychedelic-Assisted Re-Parenting
- Look through your “family albums” from as far back as you’re able – paying particular attention to the photos that touch or trigger, either in a positive or negative way.
- Journal about what comes up while and after working through your family albums as well as during the day, especially following a formal meditation practice period or anytime you feel strongly triggered by someone or something (here's an article about this practice).
- Clarify your intention for taking this journey - write it down and reflect on it over the weeks leading up to your trip making as many changes and additions as you want - let this be an organic, unhurried process.
At least seven to ten days before your experience, clean up your diet. The following suggestions are offered to help you be better prepared to deal with whatever discomfort arises during your psychedelic experience and make the most of your journey. A key to a productive journey is having a well-nurtured and rested body, a calm, clear mind and an open, curious heart. Engage in the process of making the old unhealthy, conditioned habits conscious and then replacing them with healthy intentional habits.
When we stop doing what we've been doing for years without mindful awareness, we come fact-to-face with the underlying discomfort that has led to and has been fueling these self-destructive habits. It can be quite uncomfortable to deny ourselves our usual "fixes" but in the process of cleaning up our life, we begin to become comfortable with our discomfort. This is a great skill to have when the ego falls away and we know for sure and perhaps for the first time, that we're no longer the master of our universe. With this in mind, I offer the following suggestions. I encourage you to follow those you resonate with and put the rest in a toolbox for later. Take this preparation and the rest of your life at your pace. No rush. After all, the journey is the destination.
- Tightly limit screen time – no TV, movies, FaceBook… if you must engage with this media, limit it as much as possible, especially none 1 hour or longer before your bed time. Check out this book about the impact of these media.
- No meat, fish, chicken, dairy, milk, following a whole plant-based diet for a couple of weeks. It’s important to clean out the body and deal with the underlying urges. A number of light meals is ideal with the heaviest in the morning - avoid breads and processed foods – focus on veggies, fruit, a few nuts, light fresh juices, calming teas.
- No junk food - ideally for the 2-3 weeks before but certainly 3 - 7 days before.
- Stop eating by 6pm – ideally, eat all meals before 2pm.
- Little or no caffeine – wean off if you’re a heavy daily user.
- No alcohol or other intoxicants including cannabis.
- No tobacco - wean off if you have to. This can be a challenging issue if the addiction is strong. However, successfully quitting brings many of rewards including greater self-confidence and sense of self-control.
- No sex, partnered or solo for at least 3 days prior.
- Spend time in nature – open your senses during a walk in the park and/or when sitting outside – one sense at a time, letting the others fall into the background. When the mind is deeply settled, let all the senses come together as a united field of experience with no borders in-between them. Consider participating in a Forest Bathing program.
- If you have problems sleeping avoid taking any meds. Get out of bed after being awake for 20 or 30 minutes and read or do restorative yoga practices – legs in a chair or up the wall. Lay on your back on a carpeted floor or pad (yoga mat). Roll up a towel and place it under your spine and relax into the floor - to open the chest and your heart (10 or 15 min). Then when you feel ready, go back to bed and watch your breath deepen as you relax your eyes and the rest of your body one step at a time.
- Meditation! As much as possible both formal sitting as well as informal practice – eating, walking, in conversation, being in nature… “meditate all day, every day” as they say. For support in getting started, check out the Body Scan meditations on this this page.
- Begin your day with meditation practice - 20 or 30 minutes of "just listening" not trying to figure anything out or make plans.
- Take a warm shower, put on some of your favorite light, loose-fitting clothes.
- Eat very little if any breakfast, a piece of fruit or small protein shake (6 oz or less), stay with the healthy diet; no bread, no meat, no/little caffeine.
- Pay careful attention to the setting for your journey - quiet, peaceful, safe place (bed is ideal, sofa will do) with supportive music lined up and ready (such as this selection used by the researchers at John Hopkins). Have your supportive person(s) well-rested, calm, present and committed to staying with you throughout your experience and at least for a few hours afterwards.
- Have some easy-to-digest nutritious foods on hand for when you begin your re-entry. Perhaps some fresh fruit or a protein shake. If you're quiet and listen to your inner voice, you'll be led to the foods your body is calling for. It's generally better to skip the pizza and the hot and spicy - your belly with thank you for it!
- Make plans not to drive at least until the next day – Trust me! It's not a good idea. Driving shortly after a psychedelic experience not only puts you at unnecessary risk, it also puts your support person(s) at great risk as well. Please don't risk complicating their lives or yours by being careless - spend a couple of bucks on an Uber or a Lift.
Much of what is laid out in the section above can apply to the process of "stabilizing our vantage point (how we see the world and our place in it) at as high a state of consciousness as we've ever experienced" which for many, occurred during their psychedelic journey. Cleaning up our diet, regular exercise, relaxing habits, control of media input, limited use of alcohol, and other substances, healthy relationships and of course, some form of meditation practice are important aspects of lifestyle change to consider. And, consistent with the overall focus of this page, having a good cognitive understanding or "map" of what we're doing, why, how we're doing it and what "progress" will look like, are also important - continuing to strengthen the foundation of a healthy lifestyle.
Integral Theory is the most comprehensive map that considers the largest number of variables of how one sees the world and their place in it of any such map I've stumbled upon. This article by Ken Wilber about Integral Theory is a good place to start exploring this map. In it, he lays out the stages of states of consciousness and stages of psychological development and many other aspects of our experience that can be helpful in understanding the challenging process of Staying Awake as well as Cleaning Up and Growing Up. It will also help explain why having this map in your head is important before you enter your psychedelic experience and as you come back into your normal life. Regarding the cleaning up and growing up aspects of this transformation, there are maps of healing our developmental trauma that lay out the process of re-parenting as well as overall understanding of how we come to see ourselves as we do and how psychedelic and mystical experiences can support this healing work.
This understanding of the possibilities for growth and healing is a critical element of your cognitive map for the effective use of psychedelics if your intention is lasting self-transformation not simply entertainment. As Huston Smith says in his classic text, Cleansing the Doors of Perception, "(psychedelics) appear to be able to induce (mystical) experiences; it is less evident that they can produce (mystical) lives" (my modifications). This is where a disciplined, intentional daily practice and an intentional lifestyle that is supportive of staying awake, cleaning up and growing up comes in. Of course, having these experiences for entertainment is fine too. No worries, just clearly not the greatest potential gain that these substances can bring into your life.
Following your experience make sure you have some time (a day or two if possible) when you don't have to Do anything, meet anyone’s expectations or anyone else's needs. Carve out some time to simply Be. Make room for some contemplative time: meditation (here's some support), gentle walks in nature, relaxed exchanges with someone who understands where you have been and what you need - someone who is able to match your energy, depth of experience and broadened perspective.
I hope you can see that it's natural and healthy to want to stabilize at the higher state of consciousness that you experienced during your journey. So well before you begin your journey, commit to regularly engaging in the integrative practices that resonate strongly with you: meditation, yoga, QiGong, journaling, supportive friendships, engage with a psychotherapist and/or a body worker, etc. Arrange a meeting with a supportive person within the first couple of days following your journey to help process your experience and your insights - especially how you are coming to see the world and your place in it.
Meditation is considered by many in the psychedelic community to be the Gold Standard of long-term stabilization practices. Joining a meditation group and sitting regularly with them in combination with a daily practice and multi-day retreats is perhaps the most reliable path to the stabilization at a higher state of consciousness. You can find some useful resources here for getting your meditation practice going.
There's another interesting support in your attempt to stabilize the broad perspective you obtained in your journey. It has some elements in common with meditation retreats - time alone, restricted diet and little contact with others, etc. This practice is grounded in the Shamanic tradition called "dieta." It's a special 4 to 5 day diet drawn from trees and other plants and includes special practices that are best guided by skilled shamanic practitioners. You can learn more about this practice here. The couple speaking in this podcast lead ayahuasca retreats so when they say, "dietas can be a more powerful tool for healing than ayahuasca," it means something! You might also consider microdosing especially, Paul Stamet's "stack" as part of your long-term stabilization and general wellness program (recommended doses).
Consider regularly spending time in a Float Tank (Weightless). Playing the music you listened to during your journey may also help bring you back to that higher state of consciousness you experienced during your journey. Many folks, myself included, find that floats are a valuable support in their effort to stabilize a mystical world view. My personal favorite is combining a 90-minute float with a 40-minute dry sauna. I find this combination to be an amazingly relaxing and stabilizing experience!
Many who have made a psychedelic journey seek reliable guidance either with me or another person qualified to help them integrate effectively (see MAPS or Psychedelic Support for a couple of lists of providers). Ideally, establish this supportive relationship months before a psychedelic experience but certainly afterwards and especially if there is any on-going experience of confusion, anxiety, depression, lowered motivation, relationship issues, etc. Remember it can take some time to heal whatever wounds that may have been opened by this experience and time to integrate insights and deeper understandings into your everyday life. Remember, the psychedelic experience itself can't be expected to do all the work.
Be patient with yourself, play with the many options you have for support with an open and curious heart. Trust that ultimately if you stay committed to this transformational work and refuse to turn away from the discomfort that is part of any significant life transition, you will transform in a number of positive ways. I'm confident that the next step on your path will present itself at the moment you're ready to surrender more fully to the Unfolding Mystery...
Wishing you the best on all of the healing and transformational journeys you take in your life! Let me know how I can support you! John